It is hard to forgive someone who has hurt you badly. Even more so if someone continues to hurt you repeatedly. But if we truly want to heal from these past hurts, we will need to forgive that person. Why? Because God has. God never turns someone away who truly repents and asks for forgiveness. And if we continue to hold anger towards the person who hurt us, we only end up hurting ourselves. Many times, the person we are angry at does not even know you are angry at them!
So, how do we forgive? I cannot even say the words, how can I even think of forgiving? We start slowly. And we need to practice forgiveness. I advise people to start the day thinking of that person who hurt you in the past. Then, in a prayerful way, say “I forgive you.” Do you mean it? Probably not. It will take time. But as you practice this act of forgiveness you start to think about what you are saying. You begin to realize harboring such anger within is hurting only you. And after some time, which could be six months or six years, you will say “I forgive you.” and mean it. Suddenly that great weight will be lifted. You no longer need spend any more energy knowing it is now all behind you.
Seventy-seven times might not be enough. Recognize that you are human, and we need forgiveness, too. Seek forgiveness for you sins and you will find it easier to forgive others.
May the Lord bless you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen